Friday, April 3, 2009

It's Friday, It's Friday.

Yay! This week has been a long one for some reason. Maybe it's been all the gloomy weather.

Yesterday when Emma got home from school we went to Wal-Mart to get all the stuff for Madelyn's party. Wow. I spent a lot of money. That being said though, I bought her some stuff for her birthday, all the stuff for the grab bags, the food stuff, and some groceries for us. We were there for almost 2 hours LOL Afterwards we grabbed the girls some Wendy's for dinner and they ate in the car on the way home. I love the fact that Madelyn doesn't eat baby food anymore. It just makes nights like that so much easier.

Last night went really well in the sleeping department. I put Madelyn to bed and all I got was a "WAH!!!" and she went to sleep! She woke up about 2ish, I went in, gave her her binky and she went right back to sleep. I swear, who would have thunk that after me being such a wuss for so long about it, she'd do so well? Emma also slept well last night. I must say, it's been so nice to get a good night's sleep lately.

So, yesterday, I got the best worst news ever. One of my oldest friends has had a problem for years. She and I have been friends since 2nd grade. She's one of those people who has always had an addictive personality. She was addicted to food (I know, people say this doesn't exsist, but trust me, it does). She had gastric bypass surgery about 8 years ago and the food addiction went away. Around that time was when we were big into drinking and smoking pot so that obviously replaced the food. After that she started having back problems and became addicted to pain pills. She told everyone she quit the pills, but it was obvious things were still going on. I should add that she and I haven't been really that close for about 3 years. When she started getting into the pills, she kind of alienated herself from everyone. She lost her job, she lost her friends, her husband was taking care of her kids...she was just exsisting. ANYWAY, she started drinking somewhere in there. I'm not quite sure of the exact time but I just know she was mixing wine with pills. There were days I'd talk to her and I wouldn't be able to understand a word she said. I was in contact with her husband through all of this and he was just about fed up with everything. He was taking care of their 2 kids, working 40+ hours a week...it was just too much. I don't think they'd talked in a long time. She always denies any type of "problem" so it was pointless to even bring it up to her. Something was obviously wrong with her though. She is SUPER skinny, to the point where she looks sick. Her hair looks horrible, her skin looks horrible, she just looks so dishevled and a mess...which is not her at all. Her sister came home this past week and gave her an ultimatum. She either go get help or she's going to be cut out of her life. So, yesterday, she went to rehab. I kind of found out by accident. I called to see if they were going to be at Mads birthday party so I could get the right number of things for the gift bags for the kids. No one answered so I called her cell phone. I talked to her, she told me her husband was coming with the girls but she didn't know if she'd be able to because she was having "that stuff" done to her back and didn't know if she'd be up and mobile. I didn't question it, she's always having something done to her back. Well, her husband calls me about 10 seconds after I hang up with her. He asked me what she said about why she wasn't coming and then proceeds to tell me the whole deal about rehab. She doesn't want anyone to know she's going because she thinks no one really knows about her problem. Seriously? He told me she's been drinking 1-2 bottles of wine a day on top of all the pain pills. I just can't even believe it. I really, really hope this program works for her, but I just don't know if it can. I do think that people can change, but this has been such a lifestyle for her so long...I just don't know. If you're one of those that prays, please keep her and her family in your prayers. They have a long road ahead of them!

Well, I suppose I ought to hop in the shower. That's enough gloom and doom.
Until next time...

2 comments:

Faye said...

I will remember her in my prayers, hon. It's sad to think about the quality of life she is missing out on with her beautiful family and wonderful friends. I hope she can claw her way back. *hugs*

listgirl said...

I really hope rehab works for your friend! Hope she can get her life back on track...